Waiting for the "Right One."

Whether there is one right person for each of us or not is not what I intend to talk about today. Rather, in this post I purpose to share my opinion about waiting for the right one.

Did you/do you ever find yourself sometimes with this kind of sentiment, "I'm patiently waiting for the right person in order to experience true love, to be loved and to love back, to tap into that genuine care, concern and passion for each other, with whom we shall go through life's mountains and valleys together and come out victorious."? Those moments when you feel like you just can't /couldn't wait for this intimate, intelligent person who totally adores you, which turns out to be such an amazing thing for you to believe.
Needless to say, these are some of what constitute the characteristics of the ideal power-couple that we'd all admire.

However, there is a something very important: "There is no greater love than this; to lay down one's life for one's friends." (John 15:13)

Simply saying, you will never experience any greater love from anyone, anywhere, anyhow that is greater than the love Jesus Christ has for you. 

All the other love we receive from fellow humans is very good, and to be fair, we actually need it. But it cannot and will never be able to measure up to the love that Jesus has and is continuing to show us.

In many cases we might find it very hard to fully appreciate Jesus' love, to believe that nothing can separate us from His love, that we are worth more to Him than anything else on this planet, that the Prince of the Kingdom of heaven would die just to be with you and I, that no single minute we spend with Him is undervalued, that we don't need to do anything to prove ourselves worthy of His love:

Whether you have a big butt or not, He still loves you; 

Whether you are tall or short, He doesn't love you any less;

Whether you were small before, and now you have grown fat, He feels just the same way about you as He did before;

Whether you are the most broke guy you know, He loves you so much;

Whether you think you're ugly or not, He loves you;

Whether you know how to cook or not, He will not leave you.

No devil in hell or on Earth, no angel, no king; nothing_ and again I say_ nothing can separate us from the pure abundant love of Jesus.

Romans 8:38-39
"For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

If we fail to make ourselves understand that we are accepted, we are worthy, that Christ has already validated us, then we shall still find issues even when we meet the "right one."

It is unfair to yourself and to your partner to expect them to validate you. It is unfair for you to place your happiness, beauty, sense of self-worth, identity and hope in another person's hands. It is too big a responsibility for your partner, and unfair to yourself because he/she is just as human as you are (or even more); he/she will get angry at one point in time and will not be in position to call you the most beautiful/handsome; he/she might sometimes get too stressed to even think about or acknowledge your unmeasurable worth.

Therefore look no further, the love you have been waiting for, you already have. If you fail to appreciate the greatest love of them all, then you will surely not be able to fully appreciate the love of a mate.

I don't intend to say that we shouldn't expect good love from our mates, I mean to say that we shouldn't expect perfect, unconditional, unchanging, consistent, love from fellow mortals, especially when we know we can't deliver the same 365 days, 24/7 ourselves.

Loving and being loved is one of the best feelings known to man, it is a beautiful thing that we all need to experience at one time or another, and God wishes so for us, His children. However, it is not always the case, because it so happens that some partners have no idea what love is.

It is unarguably important that your Mr./Miss Right knows Christ for themselves. Otherwise how are they supposed to love you if they have never met Love? (as we know, God is love). It doesn't matter which type of love it is: Agape, Eros or Philia, He is not only the author of love but He is love itself.

How will your bae love you if he/she has never met love? It is easier to forgive when you know someone else undeservingly forgives you; it's easier to be patient knowing that someone is bearing with a given weakness of yours; it's easier to keep standing when the easier way is to sign out, knowing that you are not alone, knowing that an even greater love holds you. Furthermore, how will you love your babe if you have not met Love Himself?

As we wait for "the right one,"

1. We need to appreciate and acknowledge the greatest love of all that we already have received in Christ Jesus.

2. We need to be working on being the right one; walking a journey with Love Himself. 

3. Wait for one who has met Love Himself, and is walking a committed journey with Him too!

It's always nice to share my heart with amazing people like you.

Thanks a bunch once again!

Please share this article with friends and family.